Written by Bridget Depew
I read a devotional recently, Moments of Hope, and the author challenges women to be warriors. To fight like warriors. To fight for our men. Because this author knows what Satan is up to–prowling about, seeking to destroy.
Guys, our marriages are being attacked. I know that Satan is working overtime to destroy the family through marriage. If I were him and my mission was to wreak havoc on society, marriages are where I’d start. Strong marriages are the crux of a successful society. Marriages that are in trouble cause husbands and wives to be distracted. We’re so wrapped up in our anger, frustration, and pain that we have very little time to focus on other things that require our attention. The biggest casualty being our children.
Not only are our marriages under attack, but our men are as well. They’re being emasculated by the feminists and ingrates of our society that no longer consider them valuable. Men are portrayed as weak, bumbling fools. And should they dare show even a modicum of intelligence or strength, they’re considered over-powering misogynists. They can’t win. Men have become irrelevant—reduced to mere fixtures in the home.
The Black Lives Matter movement reinforces that notion. They blatantly state in their mission statement,
“We dismantle the patriarchal practice that requires mothers to work ‘double shifts’ so that they can mother in private… We disrupt the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure requirement by supporting each other as extended families and ‘villages’ that collectively care for one another, especially for our children, to the degree that mothers, parents, and children are comfortable.”
This makes no sense to me. How does dismantling patriarchy by rendering men null and void empower women?? Some mothers who work double shifts have to do so because their men aren’t in the homes helping to provide for the family! So if you disregard the man and father, who is going to bring in income so that the mother doesn’t have to work double shifts to feed her children??
Why do you think BLM’s top goal is to take the focus off of men in our homes? Because Satan knows that men are the cornerstone. Men are the strength. They are the backbone of a strong marriage and family. You take out the first line of defense in a family, and the rest of the family is left wide open, exposed for attack. And I am convinced Satan is using the BLM movement to further his corrupt agenda. The people of this movement are pawns in his nefarious game and sadly, Christians, Christians, are becoming willful supporters and participants.
So how do we, as strong women, counterattack?
First, we recognize our enemy. BLM is not our enemy. God tells us in Ephesians 6:12 that “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood [BLM], but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil [Satan and his tribe] in the heavenly places.”
Secondly, we arm ourselves. Ephesians 6 continues by challenging us to “take up the whole armor of God….the breastplate of righteousness, shoes ready to share the peace of the gospel, the shield of faith…the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”
Finally, we pray. We pray for our husbands. I love what the author of the devotional says…
“Pray for him. Pray like you mean it. Pray like you believe prayer works. Pray like you believe God works through your prayers. And make prayer for your husband a priority.”
Look. I know how hard that can be some days. We’re busy, irritable, our minds are racing with all that we have to do. But here’s what: we have no choice in this matter. Soldiers who are about to venture into battle must set aside all other thoughts that plague their minds. Because if they don’t, if they’re not paying attention to the fight at hand, they could die.
We. Are. At. War.
You can choose not to believe me.
You can choose to think that the continuous negative thoughts about your husband will remain innocuous.
You can choose to dishonor him.
You can choose to go to bed night after night angry, bitter, and resentful. But if you do, be warned: nothing is innocuous when it comes to the enemy.
The enemy does not rest.
The enemy does not take time off.
The enemy does not play fairly.
The enemy will see the smallest crack in your relationship and blow that sucker wide open.
The enemy will infiltrate your mind, take over your thoughts, your words, and your actions.
And whether you intend to or not, you will emasculate your husband and push him away. And though he may not physically leave the home, he’s just as good as gone if he’s worn down, beat down, feeling lonely and empty. He won’t have the fire and fight he needs to stand up strong for you or your family. He won’t even want to after a while. And your children will have a front row seat to the decimation of their family. They will see a mother who’s disinterested and a father who’s discouraged. Wrapped up in your own mess, you will slowly become disengaged from your children, paying very little attention to what they’re doing and how they’re feeling. And children left to their own devices will turn to outside entities to occupy their time and make them feel wanted and loved. They will turn to friends and other people who don’t have their best interests at heart. And there you have it—a family dismantled.
This doesn’t happen overnight; the death of a family is a slow one. But we women can prevent it. Don’t underestimate your influence. I find it funny that feminists hail women as all-powerful but when we decide we want to use our power to encourage and strengthen our husbands, we’re looked down upon as weak and as doormats. Isn’t part of being powerful choosing how we want to wield our power? I say it is.
So shut out the noise of the world. Find your strength in your God first then use that strength to fight like warriors for your men! Fight for your children! Fight for your families!